Have you seen the promo for the new Channel Ten show "Don't tell the bride?" The premise is that grooms are given $25,000 and carte blanche to plan their wedding - all without any input from the bride. It got Bearhands and I talking the other night - would I have agreed to such a proposition back then? Absolutely not! But in hindsight it would have been fine. We would still have 'got the job done', plus we could have spent Channel 10's cash, instead of our parents' hard earned.
On the topic of weddings, I recently had the pleasure of discovering a blog called Bridal Anxiety by the very clever Nita Green. I was taken in particular by her post about being told that her wedding day is the most important day of her life. She writes beautifully and eloquently about the most important days in her life up until now, and it got me to thinking.....
Was my wedding day the most important day of my life?
Not on your nelly!
Now before I get in trouble here, our wedding day was one of the most important days of my live, but truthfully? Bearhands and I had made our promises to each other, long before we stood in front of Fr Stan and exchanged vows.
So Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls - for your reading pleasure I give you (in chronological order) the most important days of my life so far:
The Day in Year Nine when Miss Harrison told me she thought I was clever enough to attend a summer science school.
In a few short moments, she changed the course of my life and the beautiful science nerd emerged from her lazy underachieving chrysalis.
The Day I danced to Bob Marley in a bush nightclub in Faranfangana, Madagascar.
Standing about a foot taller than the locals, rocking out to Get Up Stand Up with a Brazilian and a Pom - sounds like the set up for a joke right? We were having a break from an Earthwatch research trip investigating Black and White Ruffed Lemurs and their response to their rainforest being decimated by a cyclone. Feeling so foreign and so immersed in local life, it still brings a smile to my face. That night is my ultimate travel moment so far.
The Day I packed in my job for a life with Bearhands.
Packing in my promising mining career to move to the Sunshine Coast to start a business with Bearhands was a nerve-wracking time. A lot of my colleagues were disapproving. What had I worked and studied so hard for? I cried when I told my long-term boss and he assumed I'd been harassed at my new post. Not so, I was pretty sure I'd seen my future, and it was on the Coast with this bloke.
The Day Bearhands and I moved onto the farm.
Our lovely friends and family had helped us shift from our rented Buderim house to our new home. Then they departed and Bearhands and I were left sitting on eskies on the veranda, listening to the silence, looking at the stars and (I was) wondering if we could really pull this off. This day is also important to me, because one of the beautiful blokes who helped us move in died last year. He was always keen to see us succeed and helping us move was just one way he showed us how much he cared.
The Days our daughters were born.
Two different deliveries, two very different stories, but two beautiful happy endings. Meeting our daughters has been the most amazing experiences. Bearhands makes a noise when he sees our babies for the first time - I've never heard it outside of the delivery room - it's a mix of excitement, joy and relief, and it makes me love him even more.
The Days after my brother David died.
The day the rescue crew reached the crash site and we finally learned that David and his co-pilot Tomas hadn't made it. The day the weather finally cleared and they were able to lift the boys out by helicopter. The day when my remaining family returned home to Australia with David. The day we finally laid him to rest. I learned so much about myself over these days. I learned that I married well. I learned that my in-laws are family. I learned about real friendship. I started learning about grief. I learned how strong my family are. I learned the value of faith. I learned that we're made for eternity but only here for a short time.
So that's my list so far, no doubt there will be countless more important days - happy ones and sad ones. But that's my list today.