Grief is a very difficult thing to understand. For those on the outside, it can be difficult to know what to do, what to say, how to act. I was lucky to be surrounded by so many caring people when my brother died.
In the lead up to RU OK? Day, I wanted to share what a massive difference a phone call can make........
After David's funeral, my lovely friend Chantal phoned me every Friday afternoon. I'm not sure how she remembered - whether she made a note in her diary or a reminder on her phone - but every Friday without fail she would phone and check in.
Sometimes, lost in the blur that is parenting a newborn, I would see the call on my phone and think "Oh, it must be Friday". She was like clockwork. I could count on her. It was comforting. Some weeks I was doing OK, but other weeks I really needed that call.
After everyone seemed to get on with their lives, that call - the call that said "I remember that life is never going to be the same for you" - meant the world.
Do you know someone who could do with 'that call'? Make it!
Unsure what to say? Check out the How to ask R U OK? page on the website.
They also have very helpful advice for helping the bereaved - Dealing with Bereavement.
R U OK? Day is September 12. For more information visit www.ruokday.com
How will you mark R U OK? Day?
Has a conversation ever changed your life?